Improve your communication and listening skills, learn
that conflict can be healthy to a relationship and how to
meet your partner's needs by first learning how to meet
your own.  I also help couples understand how their past
can influence their interaction with each other and how
to correct for it.

There are no degrees and programs in romance and love;
there are no schools for learning how to live and commit
to each other, or simply how to date, to talk, to work
through conflict, to listen under stress, to be in a relation-
ship. For example, when couples first marry, they have no
experience being married or understanding of the meaning
of marriage. As kids teach parents how to parent, couples
have to teach each other about their needs and desires in
their relationship, and how to talk about issues and
problems that generate stress and anxiety, over time.

Couples need to know that avoidance between themselves
and their issues does not work and only makes problems
intensify. Denial of a problem never solves it. Thus problems
in a relationship are an invitation to change and grow and
adopt a different problem solving strategy; issues require that
couples work and listen together as one unit. But when couples
and parents avoid issues, they show themselves and teach their
children in powerful but subtle ways to do the same. Ultimately,
when people avoid issues, they just avoid themselves.

When younger, our lives are more about the future, about an
idea or wish for that future with a potential partner. But when
married with kids, one's life becomes real; there is no turning back,
thus the widespread fear around commitment.  For the improve-
ment and quality of their relationships and family, people have to
become better people, they have to grow and change.